Hey Everyone! I know it’s been awhile but I never knew how hard it would be to grow a human and work two jobs all while maintaining your peace of mind. I hope you enjoyed thanksgiving as much as Baby J and I did. We spent time with our family, ate everything within reach, consumed non-alcoholic beverages and slept as much as we could. Now I am counting down the days to Christmas, New Year’s and the day I can serve Baby J her eviction notice, lol. Or maybe it’s more like when she’ll be ready to make her grand entrance into the world.
A few weeks ago I was honored to have an amazing baby shower at my full-time job which was hosted by my co-workers. It was more than I expected and I’m so happy to work with a team of people who thought so highly of me and who puts up with my crazy on a day-to-day basis. A week thereafter, my Mom, best friend Aisha and two of my Sorors Setor and Eboni (aka Can’t Stop and Won’t Stop) hosted a baby shower for my family and friends. I’m so grateful to each and every person who planned, cooked, decorated, helped with setting up, cleaned up, made attended, made me look FAB and even those who were unable to be present but sent a gift. I’m overwhelmed by the caring and loving village of people who have been supportive of me during my pregnancy. It makes me emotional every time I think about how blessed I am!
Here are some pictures from the past events in case you were unable to attend. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did. Shout out to my photographers, my brother Julien and my cuzzo, Erika! Until next time……
Two weeks ago I had the pleasure of visiting Los Angeles, California for the first time with my cousin , soror, friend Erika. We decided not to stay in LA because it was so expensive so she snagged a deal on a rental car plus a free upgrade and we found ourselves in a Mercedes Benz SUV (nothing but the best for us) for under $80. WINNING!!!! So we proceeded to Pasadena, California to the Courtyard Marriott where Erika stays when she visits for work. Did I mention they also gave us a good price for our stay and their hospitality is remarkable!
I would be remised if I didn’t mention that the hotel staff were very pleasant and friendly. They were kind, thoughtful and truly sincere about making sure our stay the best. I also need to give a special shout out to Tiffany and Janeen who were the best front desk staff I’ve ever encountered. Tiffany and Janeen were so warm and welcoming that when we arrived to our hotel room we had this beautiful basket waiting for us which included a bottle of wine, some popcorn, a mini peach and pumpkin pie, two pairs of sock footies, a bouquet of flowers and a $25 cheesecake factory gift card. WINNING AGAIN!!
They even facilitated us bumping into Derek Luke!
And I was so excited! Prior to the trip, I told myself I wanted to see a celebrity while I was in LA and who knew I would bump into one in my hotel lobby. WINNING AGAIN! He was humble and FIIINNEEE and he ministered to us about restoration when he heard we were visiting from Houston. I could have gone home after meeting him but we had a two days left so we made the most of them, lol.
While we were there we did some sightseeing. Our first stop was our attempt to get a closer view of the Hollywood sign even though Erika’s friend told us we had to hike up there which would take approximately two hours. So we both decided we would drive as far as we could up the hills of hollywood where people with loooooong money live until we couldn’t anymore. Let’s just say on the drive up the hills, I was scared for MY LIFE (which doesn’t happen often)!
And let me tell you why. Reason #1, we were going up a very steep hill around winding curves which made me feel like I was on an unsolicited roller coaster ride. Reason #2, the street we drove up on was way to narrow (like in most Caribbean islands) and all the signs on the way up said, “residents only, no driving to Hollywood sign this way”. But we kept going unto we couldn’t drive anymore.
And at that point (as seen below) there was no place to park and we were expected to walk up the hill the rest of the way to the Hollywood sign. No thanks! I knew in that moment, I was going no further and whatever my cousin wanted to do I would wait for her safely in that SUV. She asked me several times to go with her and I gave here several reasons why I wasn’t. So she persisted without me.
As I sat in the car, patiently waiting, I realized I had no cell phone service because T-Maybe probably can’t afford to have towers up there. So with nothing else to do I played candy crush and watched other tourists drive by with our same intentions. Within a few minutes, my cousin returned and told me I made the right decision to stay in the car because the hike to the sign was a lot farther and steeper than expected. Don’t tell her but I I was low key happy she didn’t leave me for a long time because I was ready to get back to the low lying area of Hollywood.
Our next stop was to Beverly Hills and Rodeo Drive. We passed by the iconic Beverly Hills sign from Beverly Hillbillies and the police station from the sequel of Beverly Hills Cop movies. When we made our way to Rodeo drive which is only three streets long we parked and walked around for two hours.
Let’s just say we left empty handed because as Iyanla Vacant says, “let’s call a thang a thang beloved”, I can’t afford that ish. The only I walked away with is this picture below.
Next stop was the Santa Monica Pier, where we ate at The Misfit. I had a cheeseburger (my once a week must have pregnant girl meal) and my cousin had a chicken sandwich. We shared some truffle fries which were DELICIOUS and we had some salted chocolate cookies that were scrumptious. My cousin indulged in libations from the happy hour menu as i drooled and sipped on an ice cold coke.
We proceeded to the Third street promenade, picked up a few items and made our way to the Santa Monica Pier. But as we walked closer to the water, the air became brisk and we looked at each other and said this is as far we we’re going to go and retreated back to our vehicle.
The next day we visited the Hollywood walk of fame and saw stars in honor of our favorite celebrities even Bill Cosby.
We enjoyed dessert at the Ghirardelli store which was rich and filling and then headed to Downtown LA (aka DTLA).
There wasn’t much to see DTLA or maybe we didn’t try hard enough but we did enjoy some lite bites at Public school 213.
On our last day we slept in and went to Malibu beach (my happy place). Did I tell you the beach was my happy place? I was able to reflect, prepare for what lies ahead, relax and people watch. And even though we didn’t stay a long time it was the perfect ending to my baby moon vacay.
My trip to LA was just what the doctor ordered. I would definitely recommend a trip there if you haven’t already been. They have perfect weather which makes up for the horrible traffic. Please scroll below to check out more photos from my trip. Until next time….
10. Belly bands and rubber bands are God sent manna from heaven.
Let’s just say anything with elastic in it is the best thing ever created. I’m five months pregnant and I can no longer fit in most of my work pants. Also, I don’t want to spend a lot of money on maternity clothes because I feel like it’s a waste. So all the clothes I purchase moving forward will be one size bigger than what I normally wear, have elastic or spandex in it.
9. French fries are not my friend.
Who am I kidding, I LOVE FRENCH FRIES!!! If it was up to me I would eat them every day. I would rotate where I ate them from daily. One day, Chic Fil A, the next day McDonald’s, then Wendy’s, next Five Guys, maybe Whataburger, throw in Wing stop and home-made french fries to round it all out. However, if I ate them everyday I would be the size of a whale by Jan 3, 2018. And since all of those fries would be hard to shake post pregnancy, I’m just gonna pass on eating them once a day and maybe just stick to once a week.
8. Don’t touch my belly without my permission.
Why? Because I said so and it’s an invasion of my personal space. I also don’t like to be touched by any and everybody. So please if you want me to spare your feelings just be kind and speak before you leap because you might draw back a nub.
7. Finding pregnant safe activities are difficult to do.
Everyone knows I love a day party and frequent a club or lounge on the weekends. But it would be a little inappropriate for me to be seen in a romper or dress singing, “Wild thoughts” at this stage in my pregnancy. So I’ll just gracefully bow out.
But what now, I don’t really know what to do to fill the avoid. Everything I do now seems to include eating and since I don’t want to be a whale next year I’m open to suggestions about things I can do instead.
6. Indigestion is the devil.
If you know me well, you know I can be a little gaseous. But it’s on a whole new level and sometimes I wake up at night with heartburn. WHY LAWD!!!! I carry Tums every where I go and I’m sure my coworkers are ready to find me a new job. But I can’t help myself. So please bear with me for the next few months and I’ll do my best to keep it to a minimum.
5. I will sniff your glass of wine if you let me.
I know that sounds nasty but since I can’t drink it for a while just waft the scent in my direction. Because sometimes having a mocktail just doesn’t cut it and drinking everything out of a wine glass is NOT THE SAME! I know this doesn’t seem like a lot to most people but for me it is. I completely agree with this saying below and if you don’t, who asked you anyway.
4. I may need a breast reduction and lift after breastfeeding.
Because I was already well endowed pre-pregnancy and at this rate things will only go down hill literally and physically. So after I post this I’ll be starting a gofundme page for my cause and I would appreciate your support. Thanks in advance.
3. I’m grateful I don’t use public transportation while I’m pregnant.
I don’t know if I could take all of the personalities, smells and plain ol’ outlandish activity that take place on public transportation. I applaud pregnant women who have to use mass transit and I wish you all the best to and fro. May God and the force be with you!
2. Being pregnant in the summertime in Houston is my punishment for fornicating with First name: Jack Last name Ass!
Well hello there! I’m BAAAAAAACK and I know what you’re thinking it’s been awhile. Where were you? But what can I say life is…… COMPLICATED!
I recently celebrated my birthday and I have a lot to be thankful for. It has been such a blessing to live to see another birthday because when I think about what I was doing last year for my birthday and how much my life has changed since then I can truly say that I’m blessed! I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting over the last few months and I feel like I was at a point where I didn’t want to continue to blog. I’ve recently decided to give it another shot but first let me catch you up on a few happenings which took place since my last blog post.
In May 2017, I celebrated the union of my best friend, Aisha and her homie lover friend, Ramani.
I visited the 9/11 Memorial museum in New York City which left me feeling somber.
I stopped by the Smithsonian Museum of African-American History and Culture in Washington, DC which was overwhelmingly magnificent!
I took a road trip to my alma mater, Baylor University which looks completely different from the school I attended 15 years ago!
And last but not least, I found out I was PREGNANT!!!
Are you as surprised as I was? If you know me, I’m sure you are. As you’re trying to digest this information let me take a moment to be transparent with you. I am a Thirty something year old, Single Caribbean American female who was at a point in her life where I thought I would be ok if I didn’t have children because I was enjoying my life to the fullest. And like so many other women I know, I wanted to be married to my soul mate first and then have children. Well, it didn’t happen that way.
To be very candid, let’s just say I made a poor decision while “casually dating” a guy and realized I had unexpectedly become pregnant. And if I want to completely live in my truth, I was not excited about this news when I first found out. I was in denial and questioned if I was ready to have a child because I’m focused on purchasing my first house and thinking about where I wanted to travel to next.
After prayer and contemplation, I decided that this pregnancy was a blessing and I may not get this chance again. Also, a child doesn’t have to deter me from moving forward with my goals. So as of today, I am 17 weeks pregnant and nervous as hell about being a MOM. I’ve shared the news with family and friends and each of them were shocked but still very encouraging except one.
Every day I ask myself, “Am I doing the right thing because this is unchartered territory for me?” But when I think about all of the possibilities in store for this little life growing inside of me all fear and doubt escape me and joy fills my heart. Ultimately, I know that God makes no mistakes and he will never leave me nor forsake me.
So with that said please have a drink (preferably a glass of wine) for me to celebrate this new bundle of joy and I promise not to bombard my social media pages with annoying pregnancy talk about sweet pea aka peanut aka pumpkin aka the little bambino aka butterball. Until next time….
Two weeks ago, I had the pleasure of vacationing in Riviera Maya, Mexico for the second time in the last four years. On this occasion, I was there for a girls trip with 10 other women to relax and have one last hurrah before my bestie gets married in May 2017. It wasn’t what I would call my typical vacation where I engaged in some adventurous activities I wouldn’t normally do at home, but I was able to enjoy spending time with a group of ladies I’ve known for over 10 – 15 years.
We stayed at Oceans Coral and Turquesa for three nights and four days and enjoyed our time spent. Of course this resort was all-inclusive which means libations were a must have at all times. We also spent time doing some of my favorite things, going to the spa, sitting poolside, gazing into the ocean, people watching, chilling in the hammocks, eating, playing games and most importantly shopping. Let’s just say I slept good every night I was there and it wasn’t because the beds were comfortable.
We also requested the bride to be to participate in a Bachelorette scavenger hunt which was only 90% completed but she gets an E for effort. And last but certainly not least we had an unforgettable professional photo shoot around the resort with our custom-made shirts designed by a fellow Baylor grad, Nzingah Gross, Owner of Inclusive Randomness.
I’m not going to make you completely jealous of our Girls Trip in case you are in need of your own. But I do want to share some of my favorite pictures from our experience. I hope you enjoy them!
Have you ever visited a city that looked dusty, dilapidated and destitute? The place looked so uninviting it made you want to pack your bags and go back home immediately. Well I have and this city is none other than Detroit, Michigan. Detroit looked abandoned like people forgot it existed and left it there to disintegrate. I know what you’re thinking who goes to Michigan, on purpose, in the winter if they don’t have to? Well I did, so don’t judge me. And when I was preparing for my trip I searched for things to do and there was only one place I wanted to visit.
As you may know when I go away there are three things I like to do. 1. Eat good. 2. Sightsee and 3. get some R&R. So of course my trip started off at a brunch spot called Kuzzo’s Chicken and Waffles which I found on Yelp. This restaurant had good reviews and the items on the menu made my mouth water. When we arrived there was a twenty-minute wait so we did a little people watching. There were a variety of patrons waiting to be seated with very colorful personalities and fashion sense.
When we were seated, I had an idea about what I wanted to order and when I saw someone seated near me order the same thing, I knew it was divine intervention. But first, I requested a tasty beverage which consisted of a mix of three types of Kool-Aid. Yes I said it, Kool-Aid. For those of you that don’t know I LOVED Kool-Aid as a kid. My brother made the best Kool-Aid because he would pour almost a whole bag of sugar in the pitcher for one pack, lol.
My beverage was Mmm good so I just knew my food was going to be even better. We’ll it wasn’t. It was just ok even though as you can see below it looked like it was going to be finger lickin’ good. The chicken was average, the waffle was a little cold and the macaroni and cheese was greasy and lacked flavor. But oh well, you win some you lose some.
Next stop was the Motown Museum. I thoroughly enjoyed Motown the Musical when I saw it on Broadway a few years ago so I was excited to visit this historical exhibit which chronicles a record label started by Berry Gordy and produced legends like The Temptations, the Jackson 5 and Marvin Gaye. But when we arrived we learned the tours were sold out for the day and we would be unable to view the exhibits. Talk about being upset. I was so upset, I pouted and walked away with only this picture which I almost didn’t take.
Since there was nothing else I wanted to do in Detroit we went back to Lansing where my friend lived and stopped at an outlet mall on the way. I just knew I would be able to cheer myself up with a little retail therapy. Boy, was I wrong. There was only one store I ended up going to and it was a bookstore where I found nothing to purchase. So we went back to Lansing to relax and we watched the entire first season of Stranger Things on Netflix. Now that’s a good show!
On Sunday, I relaxed some more and caught up on some episodes of Grey’s Anatomy, Orange is the New Black season 4 and began watching Black Sails. Overall, it was a very boring uneventful trip but I guess I shouldn’t complain because it could have been worse. At least I got to watch good TV. Until next time….
I thoroughly enjoyed watching the New Edition biopic which aired on BET for three nights this past week and I wouldn’t even consider myself a FAN! I have two close friends and a cousin who shall remain nameless who are TRUE FANS! I even allowed one friend to convince me to attend a New Edition concert in Washington DC a few years ago. And let’s just say it was money well spent because I sweated my hair out dancing and singing the few words of the songs I knew. New Edition are superb entertainers and they make performing look effortless, well some of them.
As I watched over the last few nights, I was amazed at their story and resilience. I would have never known about their poor business decisions and money mismanagement if their story wasn’t told. I was utterly shocked when I learned they were still living in the projects of Roxbury, Massachusetts after having a number one song and being on tour. And when they came back home and their manager bought back a check for $1.87 to split amongst the five of them my heart sank.
There were a few other moments in the story which made my heart hurt like finding out Ricky Bell (BAE) was a coke head! Who knew??? I thought Bobby was the only one who used drugs. I know what you’re thinking didn’t they all smoke “sticky icky”? It appeared so but I’m not judging them for smoking “mary jane” because who hasn’t? But I digress…
Another moment that made me gasp was when Bobby Brown jumped out of the top of the limousine to fight Mike Bivins like he was going to beat the life out of him. I was scared for Mike. I thought to myself the repercussions from spitting in that man’s face is going to hurt more than getting your foot ran over, Mike. But that was just one of the many fights allegedly.
Two days ago, l watched the Bell Biv Devoe interview on the Breakfast Club (which can be found here) and they reported the group members always argued and fought like they weren’t good friends. It was also reported they would have pillow fights which started out as playful and turned into real fights. I thought to myself you would have never known any of this because they didn’t bring any of that energy to the stage with them when they performed.
And the NE cast was phenomenal! Both the young and adult casts of each member were spot on, except the adult actor who portrayed Ricky Bell. And I would have never survived rehearsals for the choreography of the routines like the cast did. Maybe when I was 15 but not today!
Now, I would be remised if I didn’t mention those horrible wigs some of the cast wore. What was the budget for hair because they didn’t have to buy all the discount wigs for Johnny Gill and Brooke Payne (New Edition’s first manager and choreographer). And I personally could have done without LaLa and Wood Harris, but I’m no Robbi Reed (Casting Director).
I know this blog post may be a spoiler alert if you haven’t watched it yet but oh well and shame on you! You should lock yourself in the house over the weekend for at least six hours to get your life together in front of the TV because I’m sure BET will air at least four times by Monday. You’ll thank me later ! And after you watch it, let me know what your favorite NE song is in the comments below. Until next time…..